It’s funny, I wasn’t really surprised when it happened; I guess it had been coming for a while. Four years ago my then best friend of fifteen years cut me off cold. My sister had just died and I guess terminating the friendship was easier than having an awkward conversation around condolences.
I don’t relate this in the hope of sympathy, or to air a grievance, I’ve long since forgiven, but I relate it because I know that so many people in life have, at one time or another, felt the feeling of being abandoned by someone they trusted.
Don’t let abandonment be your confession.
I now live everyday with great friends who have been with me through thick and thin, cried and grieved together, laughed and celebrated together, but you know what? Somewhere deep inside, when things get tempestuous, a fear can still lurk that people will call it quits and walk away.
And that’s how fear works. Fear takes our focus off our blessings – the people God has put in our lives who’ve supported, challenged, stretched and blessed us – and puts it instead on those negative experiences; the parent that didn’t love us, the spouse that quit on us, the mate that left us high and dry.
It’s so easy for those feelings to shape the way that we see ourselves, other people, and God; if given space they’ll start to feed the lie that everyone will abandon us in the end. Don’t let abandonment be your confession.
It’s simple: Our experiences with people often shape our expectations of people, and our expectations of people can shape our expectations of God. God, however, is not like people. People may fail you, but God’s love endures forever.
Our experiences with people often shape our expectations of people, and our expectations of people can shape our expectations of God.
Psalm 136 is a testament to this, 26 verses each ending in the same words, “for his love endures forever”. I challenge you to read it and not be stirred in your heart by the power of that truth.
Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever.
– Psalm 136:1 (ESV)
I love the way Eugene H. Peterson phrases this in the Message; “His love,” he says, “never quits.” His love never quits.
That statement is a deep truth we need to let settle in our heart, we can’t measure or define the love of God by comparing it to our experiences with people because it has a greatness of character that surpasses all of that.
Thank God! He deserves your thanks.
His love never quits.
Thank the God of all gods,
His love never quits.
– Psalm 136:1-2 (MSG)
People may have quit on you in the past but, if you are a follower of Christ, you have a Father who never quits. It’s not in His vocabulary or even His thoughts.
There’s nothing you can do that will make Him quit, nothing so bad He’ll shrug His shoulders and walk away, nowhere you can find yourself is so dark that He won’t be a light with you. His love never quits.
Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the LORD your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”
– Deuteronomy 31:6
Imagine the massive potential of a life built on the foundation of a love that never quits. What could you achieve both in your life and for Kingdom purpose, with a true revelation of the fact that His love will never quit?
Don’t let pain from your past affect your vision of who God is. His love frees us to live a life unchained from fear, a strong and courageous life of great purpose.
God loves you with an unfailing, enduring, unstoppable, undeniable, love that will never quit.